Lack of ‘SRE’ in schools leaves pupils exposed to the damaging lies of pro-life groups

“The result had been devastating for three young women, who ran out of the assembly crying after it was inferred that they were murderers, because they had had an abortion.”

Julia Bradley – Education Manager at BPAS

I have been involved in teaching sex and relationships education for the last 15 years.  Both, as a school nurse, then working for my local authority, and now as education manager for British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS).  Over these years, we have seen different political parties come and go, debates about making sex and relationships education (SRE) compulsory, and new guidance being needed, but never produced.  What has actually changed? Well nothing at the time of writing.

The problem with this is it puts young people at risk from organisations with very strong (not always accurate) views and beliefs, and in these days when money for school SRE is very tight or non-existent, these same organisations offer their services for free.  Which for cash strapped schools can seem like a great option to ensure their students get these vital life skill messages.  But do we really want to trust such organisations?

When I was working for my local authority I received a very upsetting call from a school nurse at a mixed secondary school.  She had been asked to support an assembly on abortion, delivered by a pro-life organisation.  The result had been devastating for three young women, whom had run out crying after it was inferred that they were murderers, because they had had an abortion.  This was a 6th form assembly with 150 young people present, so the odds of someone in the room either having had or knowing someone who had had an abortion were high.

In what other part of a schools’ curriculum could you get away with giving young people such wrong and misleading information? 

As we know 1 in 3 women will have had an abortion by the age of 45.  Why then is so little planning and prep given to such important areas of young people’s lives?  If the school had asked their visitors exactly what they were going to deliver (a very graphic DVD with misleading information given out afterwards) and watched it beforehand, would the fall-out have been as awful?  If the students knew the content, then they could choose to attend or not.  This unfortunately is not my only account of such practice happening in schools.

In my BPAS role, I visited a mixed secondary C of E school last year in the home counties to deliver a pro-choice session, as the school the week before had a pro-life group in.  I was hoping in the intervening years since my last experience of such groups things would have improved.  Sadly I was wrong.  The head-of-year greeted me, with a rather worried look on his face. The woman that had come to deliver was quite aggressive with the students, waving her finger at them, almost admonishing them.  I reassured him I deliver facts and evidence based information, for them to research and make up their own minds.  I was also worried that the students had been given misinformation regarding emergency contraception (being told it was the same as abortion), despite the entire medical evidence to the contrary.  Emergency contraception aims to interfere with ovulation and fertilisation before implantation happens, where as medical abortion ends a pregnancy.  I corrected other things they had been told, and pointed them to local NHS clinics or unbiased web sites, such as NHS choices for YP, for them to find support and information.

In what other part of a schools’ curriculum could you get away with giving young people such wrong and misleading information?  The answer is, I don’t think we could in any other subject.

The British Pregnancy Advice Service (BPAS) 

I was booked to go to a sixth form boy’s grammar school later this year, again, to do a follow-up after a pro-life session.  The school then asked to change the format, so we had a head-to-head debate, which I declined, as I don’t feel it would have been supportive of the young men’s education, or given them the correct information about sex and relationships, particularly, condom use.   When I explained my concerns, the school decided to cancel the whole idea.  It’s such a shame for those young men at a pertinent time of their lives.

My last experience of helping to put accurate information to young people, was after a pro-life group set up a stall and banners outside a 6th form college on the south coast.  They were not invited by the college, but set up on the pavement outside.  It was brought to my attention, because a mother of a young woman at the college contacted BPAS through Facebook, because she was so worried, as she had collected her older daughter but had her younger child in the car.  She was also concerned that a young person at the college may have been experiencing unintended pregnancy or may have had an abortion, and the effects it would have on them.  I approached the college, and was invited to have a stand during their ‘Be Well’ week teaming up with the local sexual health drop-in.  It was a great success with many young people dropping by for accurate information, exploring contraception, condom use, STI’s and un-biased places to obtain a pregnancy test, or access sexual health services.

I recognise the desire of schools to present young people with a balanced education, but there is no virtue in any balance struck between information and misinformation. Unfortunately, in my experience, that is the kind of balance that many schools end up presenting when they ask both a pro-life group and a group like BPAS in to speak. That makes my job, and potentially these young people’s lives, all the harder.

I am passionate about sexual and reproductive health and have devotion for teaching young people about SRE, and I believe that all young people should have access to accurate, unbiased, up-to-date information about relationships, puberty, sex, consent, contraception and STI’s.  Delivered to them in (and out of) schools, by people who want to impart this knowledge in a manner that will allow them to obtain the facts, in order for them to have safe, enjoyable and healthy sex lives, either now or in the future.

Julia Bradley – Education Manager & Lead Nurse BPAS.

Sexist, limiting, manipulative: my education at a church-run private school

“I wish I’d been taught about contraceptive choices and consent. Instead, I was sent out into the world naïve, judgemental and feeling like an outsider who needed to go along with things so that I wasn’t discovered.”

Photo: Charlotte90T
Photo: Charlotte90T

I went to a church-run private school in a generic town from the age of eight all the way through to the end of my GCSEs. The school was the result of the idealistic thinking of enthusiastic non-denominational charismatic Christians in the 1980s. It started off with some unqualified volunteer teachers, a classroom converted from a World War II bunker and some sexist rules about women not being able to wear trousers. By the time I got there, the bunker was out of bounds but the rest was the same. Faith was intrinsic to the school day; we had hands-in-the-air worship in assemblies, prophesy practice in tutor times, and memorised bible verses alongside our spellings and times tables.

One emotion that stands out from my school days was a growing frustration at the lack of opportunities for females. My year group consisted of lots of smart girls with natural leadership abilities, and a few quiet and retiring boys. Every opportunity was catered towards the boys, regardless of who was the best candidate for the role. From running a mock election, to writing the school newspaper, going on an exchange trip, or learning STEM subjects – the boys were the priority. It was so subconscious that I’m sure the teachers weren’t aware of their bias. I was too young to understand that I was disrupting classes out of protest for being overlooked and under-challenged. I eventually bought a Science GCSE syllabus, and taught myself and some of the other girls after school. One girl retook a GCSE module she had previously failed and got a B. She wasn’t a low achiever like the teachers assumed, she had just never been taught.

There was no sex education, just an atmosphere of scorn and disapproval. We had just one lesson in Science about the biology side of things and were told in Sociology that we shouldn’t vote for the Liberal Democrats because they were pro-choice. There was one special afternoon in Year 9 where youth leaders from the church came in, the boys and girls were separated, and taught respectively not to masturbate or kiss anyone before marriage. The emphasis on female purity was really strong. I remember thinking at the time that I would rather be murdered than raped, because then at least I would still be a virgin. I wish I’d been taught about contraceptive choices and consent. Instead, I was sent out into the world naïve, judgemental and feeling like an outsider who needed to go along with things so that I wasn’t discovered. My school friendships became toxic as we hit puberty, and those who rejected Christianity were shamed for normal teenage behaviour by their peers, including me.

With teachers sourced from the church, there was quite a lot of spiritual manipulation. My report card from Year 4 stated that I should work on my sharp tongue. This comment destroyed me when I read it, and stayed with me for years as something that was fundamentally flawed about my personality. I struggled with guilt throughout my childhood for not feeling how every adult in my life was telling me I should feel. As I got older, I would fluctuate between wanting to fit in with other teenagers and an intense guilt for not being pure enough. I would drive this into trying really hard to be a good Christian, and then feel disappointed in myself for God still not seeming real. This led to bouts of depression until I gave up trying all together.

The place became more normal during the eight years I was there, and I heard it became more secular after I left. I wouldn’t say going to the school damaged me permanently. The small class sizes suited me on the whole and I got good enough GCSE results to carry me through to A Levels. More importantly it taught me how to adapt to survive. It taught me how to spot when someone is trying to manipulate me. It gave me a sense of optimism that everything will work out for me because a deity has got everything planned, even if I’m now missing the God. These skills allowed me to leave the school behind and transition quite smoothly to a large secular sixth form, then university, and a career after that, albeit with a few years of grappling with a conflicted identity.


TV channel seeks ex-pupils of unregistered Muslim schools for documentary

Did you go to a Muslim school? If so, what was it like? Do you feel you received a narrow, limited, or overly scripture-focused education? Were children at your school at risk of radicalisation? Do you want to stop this from happening to others?

A top TV channel is looking for former pupils of unregistered Muslim schools to come forward and anonymously share their experiences. If you went to a Muslim school and you think it might have been operating illegally, they want to hear from you.

Your identity would be completely protected, and they already have former pupils of such schools involved. So please do come forward. Highlighting these issues is the only way to stop other children from receiving this kind of education in the future.

If you can help, please call or email the Faith Schoolers Anonymous team on 020 7324 3078 or